The Case of Silent Moral Superiority

It bugs me you know. It bugs me no end. Why is it that one thing is better than the other? Why is it that one way of doing things is more acceptable than another way?

If growing up has taught me anything it’s that everyone, and I mean every single person, is moving at their own pace and own their own timeline. Nobody has any idea what another is coping with in this world where you’re supposed to have a perfect life on display. Some have career stress, others have health or relationships or family. Or maybe something even more devastating. Or maybe they don’t have anything and just want to move at a pace where they get to be what they want to be. 

How does it matter really? I mean, how does it matter to someone not integrally connected to the person? 

Why do we have such strong opinions which we advocate and then have nothing better to do than shove them down other people’s throats all the while maintaining we’re non judgmental people? 

I recently came across someone who was radically advocating only adopting Indian breeds of dogs. Dude! I get how breeders work. But once those tiny puppies are in this world it is not their fault how they came to be. It doesn’t matter what kind or where you find your dog as long as you give someone a home right? They’re living beings. 

I get it. Breeders may be evil and the Cruella de Villes of the pet world. But those animals did nothing wrong. In fact I would say, the fact that they’ve been treated badly as vanity projects for humans means we should find them homes too. It’s not their fault humans produced them in that manner. 

And now look at me. I’m being silently morally superior. 

Which goes to show that there’s is no truly non judgmental world. But but but. It would go a long long way if we stopped shoving our judgments, our opinions, down other people’s throats. Yes voice them. But don’t voice it to show other people down. Especially don’t voice it to make yourself look good and others bad. Everyone is entitled to their choice. 

I see it all the time with religion too. I’m not religious at all. I’m agnostic and at times a believer but not religious. I’m okay with praying   at any place of worship or even in bedroom or kitchen or wherever, if that’s what I want. I have a lot of opinions about religion in general, and they’re not very supportive of the whole idea of a world with religions. 

But I don’t mind people who love their religions. I don’t think it’s my place to tell anyone what to do. I don’t know their journey. I don’t know their life. I’m nobody to question them. I can have healthy discussions with them but that’s a far cry from assuming I’m somehow more enlightened because I’ve moved past the shackles of religion, as I see it. 

However, I have never or maybe once seen such acceptance from people who are religious. I come from a conservative family and therefore have it on good authority that barring one exception, all religious people I’ve met have had the same sense of silent superior morality, so far so as to be able to tell me off (wuuut) or point out that I’m not being religious enough or not being “properly” religious. 

Folks, I guess my agenda with this post is just this. Live and let live. And for God’s sake, donot shove your ideas down other people’s throats. 

Amen.